Why Recycling Is Bad
A couple of days ago I ran across an old love letter from my first boyfriend. We were together in high school and a little bit after, when he was in the military. At some point life got in the way and we drifted apart.
First Boyfriend and I have remained in touch, sporadically, throughout the last 20 years. We haven’t been close, but he’s kept me posted on his career and basic life events. When I found that letter, I thought it would be fun to snap a picture of it and email it to him.
Turns out F.B. was going to be in town just 48 hours after I sent the email to visit family who still live here and his brothers who don’t. We decided to have dinner and catch up, after he’d hung out with the fam for a while.
I remember loving F.B. in that dramatic, all-consuming teenage girl way. I, of course, didn’t expect to feel like that again, but I did expect to enjoy his company.
I did not.
My numero uno dislike about the human personality is arrogance. I simply can’t tolerate it. Maybe I’m too laid back. I don’t think of my life, or the people in it, in terms of who’s more educated, or makes more money, who is attractive or unattractive. That shit doesn’t matter to me.
So when I find myself in the company of someone who can’t grasp that, I get away from them as fast as I can. Otherwise I end up unleashing verbal smack-downs and who needs that?
So after F.B.’s insistence that he knew my friends (whom he’s never met) better than I, in terms of what they were capable of, and his “teaching” me endlessly about his iPhone (in spite of my having told him TWICE that I’ve already owned one), I had enough. I faked a headache and came home. If I never see him again- that will be too soon.
Peace and no more old flames.
September 17th, 2008 at 3:52 am
Old flames are a no-no as far as I’m concerned. There must be a reason why they’re dubbed ‘old’ flames … LOL!
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September 17th, 2008 at 4:29 am
You are SO right!
September 17th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
Oh dang, he just spoiled everything! ? he was doing great until he opened his mouth. I know how you feel about being around arrogant people…don’t like it..doesn’t matter what you have, who you are is what I want to know. Oh well, I would have faked it too and got up out of there. Meet you at the watering hole.
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September 17th, 2008 at 12:37 pm
Yeeahh…generally my motto is, “We broke up for a reason.” Granted, it doesn’t mean you can’t necessarily stay friends with someone after the fact (if the situation is right), but…yeah. I feel you.
On the bright side, at least now you know.
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September 17th, 2008 at 8:34 pm
It was kind of you to give him a chance. At least it reconfirmed your original decision to split up. It’s too bad he hasn’t gotten better with age.
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September 18th, 2008 at 1:08 pm
I can’t stand arrogance, either. It makes a person real ugly real fast! I would’ve faked a headache, too. Or maybe not. I may have just told him what I thought. lol I met up with my first love again years and years ago. It was fun, because after we got all caught up on our lives and stuff, I told him what a tool he was for what he did to me. That felt REALLY good!
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September 18th, 2008 at 9:02 pm
It’s usually best not to return to the scene of the crime…
September 18th, 2008 at 9:30 pm
That all consuming first love thing is so funny, you never know what you’ll feel like when you see each other again.
I’ve seen my first love (from over 20 years ago) several times over the years, he still gives me butterflies. My husband knows and accepts this. He’s overly mature like that.
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September 18th, 2008 at 9:34 pm
The old “old flame” trick!
The way I see it is, you can’t move forward by revisiting the same relationships that didn’t last. Most relationships weren’t meant to last, but to help you grow into the person that will be able to have lasting love. Of course, this is just my personal conclusion based on my own love life!
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September 19th, 2008 at 3:42 am
I swear, everyone, I am DONE with old flames. I cross my heart. LOL
September 26th, 2008 at 2:03 pm
Damn. I’ve always wondered about that too. I have an old flame that I was passionately in love with and we hooked up several times over the years. Now, I haven’t seen him in 10 plus years, and it’s funny, I was just wondering a few days ago what it would be like now. This just makes me cringe and figure it would be better if it didn’t happen. Especially since I heard rumors a few years ago that he had become involved in the drug scene. Yep, it’s better to just wonder.
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