I Will Choke You Out, Bitch.
Here’s the thing: I am FIERCELY loyal to my friends. I have been in physical fights for them, been there for them, nurtured them, bailed them out of jail, taken them out when they needed a good drunk, etc. I am a GREAT friend to have. I am the first to admit this because I have learned a LOT about friendship over the years and I’ve learned what it takes to be a great one. I’ve also learned what it takes to be a shitty one.
I have a shitty one in my midst. I’ve been friends with this chick for about 2 years now and we have several mutual friends. She happens to be a huge bitch. Normally, I don’t mind this quality- as “bitch” can take many forms- and most of them I’m ok with. However, talking shit like we’re in high school is not one of them. Anything you can’t say to ME should not be said. Especially to a third party. I adhere to this rule, therefore I expect that of my friends.
It has come to my attention that my (not cool) bitch friend has had a lot of shitty things to say about me, to another mutual friend. Normally, I would let this go as an immature friend that needs a good talking to. But I know this bitch, and she’s beyond “talking to”. I also know that the information I’ve been given is 100% accurate. (If I didn’t know that, this would not be an issue.) And I am pissed off. Finally. And I’ve called her out. Which means I’ve asked her to challenge me to my face. Normally I would call the “friend” and ask for an explanation, but since she thinks I’m “all talk”, I thought I’d allow her to prove that to me.
For the record: I do NOT advocate physical violence. I would much rather talk our shit out than fight. However, I have an EXCELLENT track record when it comes to beating a bitch down (I’ve only lost ONCE). I’ve been doing it since I was 14 years old and I have pretty much fucking MASTERED it. Just because I am pretty doesn’t mean I can’t kick your ass. Ask my mom. She hates that about me.
Peace and don’t make me hurt you. Unless you like that.
July 23rd, 2008 at 6:02 am
It’s painful, isn’t it? Such a betrayal.
I had to deal with this last year - one newish friend (two years, just like yours) in a group of us, began to show me some serious disrespect. Sadly, without bad-mouthing her to others, it’s impossible to convince them that it’s not me being bitchy by ‘being nasty’ to her, it’s a problem she has precipitated .. you seem to be lucky in that other friends have told you what’s going on, so they know. In my case it’s taken six months, and now most of the rest of the group have either realised what has gone on, or have at least come to terms with the fact that they can be friends with both of us, but not in the same room.
Two years is a milestone in a friendship, I think. At this point you have to choose to allow it to deepen or keep it shallow. If you deepen it, you risk having to open yourself up a bit more, and that’s what my friend couldn’t do. If you keep it shallow, you have to continue to be careful and considerate at all times, as if to a stranger, and she couldn’t do that either.
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July 23rd, 2008 at 6:50 am
I had a friend that was bad mouthing me to my face. This woman had made a lifetime of VERY bad choices and was the perpetual train wreck. The final straw for me, after almost 20 years of ‘friendship’ was when she started bad mouthing my husband and our relationship. Which she couldn’t understand that we have a GREAT relationship. This was the culmination for me and I told in no uncertain terms to never contact me again and that we were through. It was the best ‘break up’ eveh! I also don’t suffer from guilt in most areas of my life.
Love your blog and how straightforward you are.
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July 23rd, 2008 at 7:35 am
There is a girl in my office who has done this to me. I don’t think she really understands why I cut her off without a second word. She has totally thrown me under the bus, several times now, and I know she has. No one can try harder to be a good friend than me, but no one can be more implacably unforgiving than I am when someone has repeatedly burned me.
Fuck those bitches. I hate them, and they don’t get another chance.
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July 23rd, 2008 at 10:03 am
WTH, what’s wrong with her, is she jealous of something. I don’t want to call her stupid, but how smart was that. If she’s going to talk about you at least be smart enough to do it to someone you don’t know.
Don’t open up a can of nothing on nobody, although you kind of do feel better afterwards, you’re much too classy for that…I just start cutting people off, as mentioned, pretending they are not breathing my air.
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July 23rd, 2008 at 11:02 am
I KNOW that you are an awesome person and a really good friend. I sense a little jealousy on “Her” part. She can’t do anything about it but hate on you and it only makes her look like a bad friend/Hater!!! I think we all come across “friends” like this in our life time. Don’t waist your time being pissed off at “Her” she’s not worth getting all worked up and really it’s a good thing that you now know who she really is, but it sounded like you already knew. Feed off this girl! Use it to your advantage… You are sooo awesome that you are worth being Hated on!!! This probably wasn’t your first time Hated on and it probably won’t be your last. I will bet that there will be more moments like this.
P.S. I’ve had many and never lost One ;o)
July 23rd, 2008 at 12:15 pm
Dude! You bitch-slapped that girl so hard in this post that it woke up MY dentist!
And how is it that my niece can get in here and comment before me?! Man. I need to read the feeder earlier!!
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July 23rd, 2008 at 2:17 pm
I don’t mind when people badmouth me. My actions and my honesty speak for themselves, and prove the lies wrong. And if they don’t, the ACME disintegrator is always available as a last resort.
I’m placing my bets on YOU, girl! But I know that you won’t need to resort to fighting. People who trash-talk are cowards. She won’t fight you. She’ll back down for a bit, and then resume the trash-talking later, unfortunately. Repeat your intimidation tactics, as necessary.
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July 23rd, 2008 at 7:07 pm
Oh my goodness. I think I’m with your mom on this one
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July 23rd, 2008 at 8:56 pm
Sigh! My BFF. My BFF beyond all words beyond sisterhood did that to me. I still don’t know why or how it happened, but when I was going through my divorce, she told my x several things that were completely untrue. And just escalated the problem. I still love her with all my heart, but damn, that was a knife. And we’ve never had what we did since then. It sucks.
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July 24th, 2008 at 1:45 am
Damn. Remind me to never ever piss you off! LOL I’ve never been in a physical fight in my life, unless you count the time I was swinging a purse at my sister when we were kids and the strap broke and the purse slammed into her face. Now THAT pissed HER off! But other than that, no physical stuff. I can, however, kick ones ass with words, and have done so to many people, including my husband’s old boss a couple of times. They were actually stupid enough to invite me to the annual one-on-one meeting between them and hubby because they knew I was upset with the way things were being done down there. Hubs said go for it, so I did. After that I guess word got around and all the guys at his work were afraid of me. LOL Which, of course, is just how I like it.
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July 24th, 2008 at 11:04 am
Ugh - I can’t stand bitches like that. She’s got problems - insecurity, jealousy and whatnot.
But she fucked up when she thought she could take you on.
It’s been a WHILE since I had to deal with shit like that. It’s usually someone spreading rumors that I’M the one talking shit. And when they come up to me to “confront” me, I’m like -
“Bitch. If I were gonna call you a “bitch,” I’d say it to your goddamned face.”
Please.
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