If You’re Bad News, I’ll Give You My Number
Well, it appears that my unlucky man streak is still going strong. (High five!) Within hours of my last post, where I mentioned the cute guy who fixed my mirror, I got a text from my bff. Evidently she heard that Cute Guy is no good. She was told this by a male friend, who happened to be at Fave Watering Hole on Cinco de Drinko, and saw me hanging out with Cute Guy.
Bff’s friend said that Cute Guy is, “shady and bad news”. I told bff that I’d need more info. She got back to me, later, with more details from her friend: “he is a player big time and stabs people in the back a lot”. Um, alrighty then. So here’s what I’m doing with those little passed on treats:
First and foremost, I don’t take the word of others as gospel when it comes to forming opinions about people. There are always people who aren’t going to like you, for whatever reasons, and who will say bad things about you to others when given the chance; true or not. I don’t think it’s fair to judge people based solely on what someone else says about them. This isn’t high school and I don’t work that way; I form my own opinions based on my own experiences. (The ONLY exception to this is if a potential crush has dated a friend of mine. That’s a deal breaker, no matter what.)
Secondly, I’m not looking for true love here. I’m looking to have some fun with someone (cute) who doesn’t piss me off or get on my last nerve. Being that I’m more male than female minded, the possibility that he may be a “player” doesn’t faze me one bit. To me, dating is meant to be fun, not as a means to an end, and sex and love are two very different things.. I know, and appreciate, the difference.
Anyway, who knows if I’ll even see him again? I’m not worried about it. The good thing is that my luck is actually starting to make me laugh now. I’m just gonna keep going with the flow… Mr. Right Now is never far…
Peace and fun.
May 8th, 2008 at 7:40 am
Hmmm….”shady”….maybe he IS your new stalker! At least he’s a cute stalker…you could be being stalked by THIS guy (a’la Uma Thurman)…http://www.nancarrow-webdesk.com/warehouse/storage2/2008-w17/img.202945.html
May 8th, 2008 at 8:52 am
I think it’s good to keep what was said about this guy in the back of you mind. If it’s true, you’ll see it with you own eyes. It’s not that hard to see the signs. Think positive :o)
May 8th, 2008 at 9:34 am
I say give him a shot. If girls never dated “players” my wife would have never dated me… 18 years ago!
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May 8th, 2008 at 9:44 am
I agree with Jeff. When I was first dating my husband all kinds of things were said. I think once someone like that finds who/what they really want to be with, it all stops there. So 9 years and 3 kids later we are still each others best friend and in love. Not to say this is going to happen with this guy… but it’s possible ;o)
May 8th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
oh. well it’s nice to have friends that look out for you but it’s also great when you can form your own opinion. sometimes i do tell my girlfriends when their SO isn’t quite right for them and i tell them why if i continue to see things happening…AS A FRIEND, i kind of have to say something, but after that, i let it go and never say i told you so. i think we all know when someone isn’t right for us, we just don’t want to admit it or speak the truth out loud.
somethings we do need to find out on our own, but a little whisper in the ear never bothered me.
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May 8th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
Angi - Ick. That guy is not hot. LOL
Lisa Lisa - I’m not looking to settle down with this guy, I don’t even really know him, so it doesn’t matter to me if he turns out to be “shady”. I’m just looking to have some fun.
Jeff - See? You’re the perfect example! The “player” thing doesn’t bother me at all. Besides, even if he were, they usually aren’t that way forever.
Lisa Lisa - Aw, how sweet that you and your hubs are still happy and in love. Good for you two! I’m not even thinking about a husband, however. I’m allergic to that kind of commitment. lol
Natural - I absolutely welcome (and pay attention to) the opinions of my close friends. Always. However, these weren’t my best friend’s opinions… They were the words of a guy that she works with. He had asked her to pass them on to me. She’s never even seen the cute guy. But if she met him and told me she had a bad vibe, or saw something in his behavior that worried her- I would pay attention to that.
I trust my friend’s opinions. But I don’t trust second hand info. from people I don’t know that well. Likewise, when I see something not right with one of their potential crushes, I speak up. That’s what friends are for, right? Thank you for your comment… That was a good one.
May 8th, 2008 at 6:24 pm
I for one never ever listen to what people say about something or someone. I like to form my own opinion. At least that way, if things go wrong, I can only blame myself … LOL!
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May 9th, 2008 at 1:15 am
Nick - I, honestly don’t think I’ll ever see that fool again anyway. But I agree… I like to shoulder my own blame. lol
May 9th, 2008 at 5:29 am
I think if a female told you those things about him they’d carry more weight. Do guys that aren’t “players” resent other guys that are? And I think the fact that he fixed your mirror has to at least get him some points, too.
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May 9th, 2008 at 6:15 am
Good for you! I like to see a strong, independent, free-spirited woman speak her mind and to go after what she wants. It’s a joy to read your thoughts, Corrina.
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May 9th, 2008 at 12:04 pm
Susan - Exactly. The info coming from another guy is weird to me. It’s not like Cute Guy played HIM, right? LOL… And if nothing else… My mirror is fixed so yay!
Marvin - Thank you sweetie!