Still Friends
I am SO tired…
I got a call from the ex (D.) last night/this morning about 3:45 a.m. I came thisclose to not answering, but I thought something might be wrong, so I did. Turns out he needed a ride home from a bad situation he’d found himself in. He was far away from home, and me, and was with people who thought strippers and cocaine were fabulous ideas. Thankfully, that shit isn’t D’s style. So he told his companions that he was going outside to get some air, then left. But he didn’t have his car, so he was walking. He told me that he needed a ride, and didn’t know who else to call.
So I got out of bed, got dressed, and headed out to a nearby town to pick him up and take him home. It only took me about 20 minutes to get to him, and we talked on the phone as he walked down the street, until I got there. I was very glad that he called me when he needed me and that I was able to be there. I became very angry, however, when it occurred to me that not ONE of those losers he was with (his “friends”) had even bothered to try and call him to see where he was! Did they even know he was gone? Did they even care? It’s 4 in the morning, their drunk friend is WALKING home and no one even bothered to take a moment between coke lines to see if he was ok. I pretty much had a fit about that all the way to his house. If I went missing for even 5 minutes- my phone would be ringing ridiculously. Then again, my friends aren’t drug using fuck faces.
I got D. home safe, and came home to bed (about 5 a.m.). It seemed that D. learned a lesson last night and I seriously doubt he’ll allow himself to be in that position again. But if he ever is, he knows he can always call me- and I’ll be there. That’s the non-suck part of our break-up… We are still just a phone call away.
Peace and just say no.
Tags: break up, cocaine, ex-boyfriend, friends
April 12th, 2008 at 3:03 am
LOL! You are so nice to help out your ex. I have seldom been fortunate to be amicable with an ex. You are a good person to help D out, because those waste-of-skin druggies never would, unless it would be to rob him later. But I have never answered a past-midnight phone call that did not turn out to be somewhere between a problem and a pain in the ass crisis. Turning my phone off solves all those problems, at least temporarily.
April 12th, 2008 at 12:07 pm
Hi Marvin! I have been lucky to be able to remain friends with nearly all of my exes. I don’t necessarily talk to them all the time, but we’re friendly. D is the only one, however, that I would get out of bed at 4 a.m. for. And I’ve thought of turning my phone off but I’d hate to not be available for a friend who might need me. Usually a ride is all that is needed, or a shoulder to cry on. So far, it’s never been bail money or the like. LOL… I’ll go knock on wood now.
April 14th, 2008 at 9:44 am
You’re such a kind and giving person! I’m helpful too, but my nomadic lifestyle makes it very hard for friends to find me to ask me for help. It’s one of the drawbacks to this lifestyle that actually works in my favor.
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April 14th, 2008 at 12:58 pm
It would be nice to be on good terms afterwards. I think my wife might have a few words for me (and her fist in my face) if I went on a midnight rescue run for my ex
She has no reason to worry, I would never repeat that relationship from hell.
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April 14th, 2008 at 1:18 pm
Thank you Marvin! Luckily, that kind of situation rarely arises otherwise I don’t think I’d be so helpful all the time. ha ha
Tim - Yeah- if I were married, I’d smack down my husband if he left at 4 a.m. to pick up his ex and take her home. D and I are still single, though so it’s ok. lol
April 15th, 2008 at 8:06 am
Cool, that was nice of you to get out of your warm bed, now I know who to call.
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